The word “sexy” in
modern-day society has become synonymous with the matched drum-beats and
stiletto steps made famous by Victoria
Many of you may have clicked on this article expecting to see a list consisting
of amazing legs, a great smile, chiseled abs, and a tan… But what society tells
you is sexy on the surface is often a small piece of the whole puzzle, if it’s
a piece of it at all. The first thing we need to do is get rid of this damaging
perception that only women who look like airbrushed magazine advertisements are
sexy.
There
is so much more to it than that.
So,
for those of us who live in the real world, what makes a woman sexy?
1. Confidence.
Confidence
is key. Being “perfect” is not. A strong, purposeful walk, head held high, eye
contact, and a wide, welcoming smile go a long way.
Confidence
breeds more than just a strong presence or attraction — it’s the foundation for
a strong life. Success, whatever that means to you. The ability to go after
what you want, which is also sexy. In other words…
2. Ambition.
Ambition
gives someone a purpose, a drive, a direction in life. Ambition is sexy because
it lets a man who has his own goals see his mate as a partner, a teammate,
someone he can take on the world with — and that’s how a relationship should
be.
3. Passion.
Passion for life.
Passion for another person. Passion for an interest, a hobby, art, music,
anything that drives you. To see a woman in her element and truly loving what
she is doing is sexy.
4. Kindness.
Kindness toward others
is a disappointingly rare quality in modern society. Taking a few moments to go
out of your way to talk to someone, showing compassion to another member of the
human race, regardless of who they are or where they’re from, shows heart, and
a level of depth that could never be made up for by a beautiful exterior.
5. Honesty.
When a woman is genuinely
herself and doesn’t change for anyone, it shows many of the above qualities all
together. It also shows that she has enough respect for you to be up-front with
you and not hide anything.
How
long will you stay in a committed relationship with a beautiful or handsome
liar? If you cannot trust your partner or believe what they say, how can you
construct a solid, lasting foundation with them? You can’t.
6. Class.
I’ve said it before,
and I will say it again. Class has nothing to do with the price tag on your
outfit. Class is about the dignity you carry yourself with and the level of
respect you show to those around you.
It doesn’t matter what
kind of car someone is driving, what part of town they live in, or what brand
of clothing they’re wearing. If they have an ugly attitude and embarrass others
in public, none of it matters.
7. Intelligence.
There is no denying
that someone’s looks are what initially draws us to them. It’s difficult to
spot a great personality from across the room. Many a fling was built on
physical attraction alone, but how long can it last?
When conversations
lack depth or intrigue, we often fill our time with physical activity together,
but it is impossible to build a real connection or lasting relationship with
someone on that alone. Being intellectually challenging and having the ability
to hold real discussions about meaningful topics will always trump shallow
beauty in the long run.
There is nothing wrong
with putting value on your appearance and that of your partner — we all do it. I
know I do. Physical attraction is the fundamental starting point of essentially
any relationship. But if that is the only glue bonding the two of you together,
your connection will quickly weaken and break apart. The flame may burn
strongly — but briefly.
You don’t have to win
the lottery in the gene pool to be sexy. We may not be able to decide the cards
that are dealt to us, but we can decide how we play our hand.
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